A Guide To Building A Strong Connection With Your Baby

A Guide To Building A Strong Connection With Your Baby

New parents, particularly new mothers, often feel anxious about ensuring they do everything right for their newborn, with bonding being a top concern. Bonding is a natural process of developing an emotional connection with the newest member of your family. The first connection that your child shares will lay the foundation for their many other relationships in life, making it a significant responsibility. Thus, it's understandable for parents to worry.


However, humans and their children are biologically wired to adore each other, and while the emotional connection may be one-sided initially, the feelings become mutual as your baby grows. Remember that bonding is not a one-time event that may or may not happen but a gradual occurrence that develops as you and your child get to know each other.


If you still worry about "not bonding right" with your baby, the guide below provides helpful tips for creating a healthy and more vital connection with your child.


1. Learn what counts as healthy bonding


As previously mentioned, bonding between a parent and a child is a gradual process and not a one-time event. It is a common myth that if parents do not feel an immediate and overwhelming sense of love upon seeing their baby, they won't be able to bond with them successfully. However, human emotions are more complex than those of ducks and chickens, and genetics also play a role in bonding. It is in a parent's genetic makeup to become attached to their offspring, and the baby's actions, such as crying, instinctively prompt a response from the parent.


2. Make the most out of feeding time

When it comes to bonding, feeding time is a significant moment for breastfeeding mothers to connect with their child. Breastfeeding incorporates all the essential elements needed for healthy bonding, such as being in close contact, providing nourishment, making eye contact, and talking in a soothing voice. These actions make babies feel loved and secure. 


For mothers who cannot breastfeed, bottle-feeding can provide the same opportunity for bonding during feeding time. The critical factor is to ensure that both the parent and baby are calm and relaxed during feeding, as it can positively impact the child's emotional state.


3. Converse with your baby 

Engaging in conversation with your newborn is yet another way to form a deep bond with them. Even before they're born and after they enter the world, talking to your baby is essential in establishing that connection. Although their vision is still developing in the first few weeks of life, babies bond with their parents through the sound of their voices. You can do this while feeding them or singing them nursery rhymes as they drift off to sleep. While they may not understand the words yet, they can pick up on the tone and emotions in your voice. Regardless of what you talk about, your child will understand the love and affection conveyed through your words. 


4. Learn your baby’s communication cues

When it comes to bonding with their newborn, new parents may feel uncertain about how to communicate with their baby beyond feeding, crying, and sleeping. Although babies can’t express themselves verbally, they communicate through eye contact and crying, which can be challenging for most parents to interpret at first. 


However, with time and practice, parents can become more attuned to their baby’s needs and cues. Paying attention to their crying patterns, behavior, and body language when they’re hungry or need a diaper change, for example, can help parents understand what their baby wants. Moreover, seeking advice and guidance from more experienced parents can be beneficial.


5. Be consistent 

Consistency is crucial in building a strong bond with your baby, and this involves consistently meeting their needs and providing them with love and attention. This means that parents need to establish themselves as a constant presence that their baby can always feel, hear, and see. Everyday parenting tasks, such as feeding and diaper changes, provide this kind of presence. During the first few days or weeks of a newborn's life, new moms may feel like they are doing something wrong, but simply tending to their baby's needs is more than enough.



Bonding is a process that takes time, so it may take weeks or even months before parents fully develop a strong connection with their baby. Hopefully, the steps above serve as a good starting point for many parents worried about what it means to bond the right way with their baby.

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